If our intention is pure, we will know how to [restore an offending brother] step by step. First, we must have the right spirit. Next, the words we speak, the way we speak them, including our attitude, countenance, voice, and tone, must all be right.

Our purpose is to gain him, not just to inform him of his fault. It is easy for us to say good things about a brother; it is easy to praise a person. It is also very easy to lose our temper with a person.

We only need to let go of our emotions and we will lose our temper. But pointing out a person's fault and, at the same time, restoring and gaining him is something that can be done only by those who are full of grace. One must forget about himself completely before he can be humble, meek, free from pride, and willing to help those who are at fault.

In the first place, one must be right himself. If a brother offends you in a small matter and you forgive him, the matter is settled; there is no need to do anything further. But if a brother offends you to such an extent that it becomes an issue, you cannot close your eyes and say that there is no problem.

If the problem is not solved, it becomes a burden to the church. The church is often weakened because of these burdens. The life of the Body is drained through these burdens...

We must properly deal with every problem. However, our spirit, attitude, word, countenance, and tone must all be proper. This is the only way to gain our brother.